Mafe @ 2015

And I am back. After a year...haha and its amazing back reading my thoughts...this gives me motivation to continue this update and make this a habit (hopefully).

So to give update, here are a few things:

I am now a member of El Presidente Toastmasters, I am done with my 5th speech and will work on completing my CC (Competent Communicator) Norm until year end.

I am now the Secretary General of JCI Perlas Pasay.  By this time I accepted that I am good in admin. I realized i have been trying to avoid this position a few years ago and yet here I am writing reports and doing the minutes...haha...but Im happy with this experience, I met a lot of really good people, got invited in the different events of other chapters and the secretaries of the different chapters are in one viber group coming alive when you think that its sleeping time. I am excited for the year to come as I see this as a space to practice leadership. We are on the last leg of the year, working on the different Bids, to win home some awards during the conferences and for sure we will :)

I am now unemployed. Before my 10th year I was able to get out of my 1st job. It was a secured job and I went out of my comfort zone to grow. Its fun, learning a lot day by day :)

In my Nuskin Business, I am growing. It is indeed a leadership business. And the many struggles that come are the stepping stones for my success. No body said it was easy but its all worth it. I may not be running for Europe this time but I have  my own game that I play everyday to have stepping stones to reach financial and time freedom. I am building my team and will focus my attention to those looking for changes in their life, would want to make themselves healthier and help other people. I trust in the Lord that this are already in His plans, everthing will happen in His perfect time:)


In my family, everyone is still busy, My parents are both senior citizen and very active in Couple's for Christ. They often eat out and is enjoying their 20% discounts. My brother has a girlfriend and is staying in the province. He is also busy with his business. And at present my sister is in Turkey through AISEC and met new friends. I bet she has lots of stories when she came back.

Much more stories to tell hopefully in succeeding days :) Have a great night :)

PEACEFUL MORNING

I shared my struggle to my spiritual parents in one of my communities and through my background; she was able to understand better where I am coming from. Our action steps to be kinder are:

1.      To learn to be more compassionate each day. Train my mind to think before I act therefore being aware of the actions/words that I say by putting myself in other people’s shoes

2.      To continue serving God through my ministry and joining group activity for girls to bring out the femininity in me. Make a conscious effort of creating relationships around me

I am thankful that this day, the Lord has blessed me with a wonderful day. I started with waking up later as I usually do but knowing that I have flexible time to go to work reassured me that its ok, I can still make it to my schedules within the day. Then I checked some messages and found good messages from good friends. I realized that I have someone special in my life already and that his attention gives me the comfort that this day will be great. We exchanges a few message and I fixed myself for the day. Im ready to go to work and a good friend informed me that my mode of transportation is out of service and that I have to take alternative route. There were a lot of people in the high way trying to get to the bus that was all full. I was not affected by this; my focus this morning is to find a bus where it is not yet that full even in ordinary one. I saw one and immediately onboard. I noticed that my mind is still calm and at peace. Not the usual reaction that I know but Im glad taking notice of it. With that good composure, the lady that was sitting beside me alight the bus and gave me a chance to sit down until I alight. I was able to even help my seat mate to identify where she will alight. I commend myself for having a peaceful morning, I am looking forward to stretching this peace through out the day and radiate a new me that is open in creating relationships J

MY JOURNEY TO A KINDER ME

I had a coaching experience last Saturday with my mentor, he told me that I am not creating connection, and that I am distant to everyone; I am present and mingling with everyone but the relationship is not blossoming because I do not allow and give the impression that If someone hurt me, I’ll make sure he will also get hurt. Knowing this we came into a conclusion that I need to become kinder.

How to be kinder is now my dilemma. Looking back at my life, I look for the cause of my aggression.

1.      Growing up, I am always with my grandmother. My parents both work in Metro Manila while I was young and my grandma took care of me during weekends. She is a strong woman, Widow of 2 husbands and was able to raise her 5 children. I describe her as a typical Filipino elder that easily gets angry and that her language of love is discipline. We totally understand that by that time, that’s how our elders really show love because that is how their parents show love as well. As a result they are hardworking, strong people and have very high regard with discipline. My two (2) siblings grow up with my mom, which is the time that she changed work; she had an early retirement and found a job in the province. I can say they are more charming than me.

2.      Growing up with my mom is a breath of fresh air, she is very much understanding and we have a very high trust relationship. I was almost never afraid of her but I give her my utmost respect. As a daughter I am entitled to show and expressed to her my feelings and what I think, it’s a very diplomatic set up. Whatever I do, it’s in the context that I am just expressing myself and so I subconsciously though that everyone knows me that everyone will look at me at the same lens my mom used to. With this I got a lot of misinterpretations, from friends, organizations and even from work. I was not able to see that only a few families is experiencing the same liberty that I have in terms of self expression and that my normal self gives them an impression that I am aggressive, in the way I communicate.

3.      I transferred to metro manila for my college education; I am a computer engineering graduate from the best engineering school in the country. In my course for every 3 boys there is 1 girl. Being around with engineers push me to know more about them, learn how to be like them thinking that I will protect myself better knowing their language and how they think.

4.      I experienced 1 of my major loss during an organizational election. I held on the pain for 8 years because I believed that there are some people who did what they can so that I lose in the said election. I felt betrayed because they are the people I supported in their own time and it dragged my self esteem to all time low. I lost my relationship after and then I shut myself close from anyone. Now, after 10 years of that incident I came into a realization that by that time, we are just protecting our family, the organization, it was not in our intention to hurt anyone but it happened anyway. And it has been my personal ministry to always look after this family and guide the young one’s in serving our community

5.      I worked in an ICT company and same scenario; I am working with almost all boys team. The key for survival in my mind is to be like them, strong and let them know that I can protect myself. My close friends usually gets a friendly punch as a greeting and they allow me to be like that, It gave me an image at work that I am physically aggressive and  a lot of people got intimidated of me.

To sum it all I received all of my programming from the above situations and I know that those are already from the past. My awareness is now the start of me creating a new past. I want my new to past to be as follows:

1.      I am compassionate. I can understand and easily see where the people I am talking to is coming from. They can easily relate to me and I can create a very strong connection to them that they will always meet me again.

2.      I am a source of inspiration. People would want to be with me because I can help them see the possibility and work on creating that possibility to a reality. I bring out the best in other people and inspire them to reach for more.

I am thankful for the people who contributed to me in seeing all of this and I know these will all be worth it because I will be accomplishing my purpose in life of spreading HAPPINESS in this world.

MISINTERPRETATIONS

“You see the world as you are” and “Nothing has meaning except the meaning that you give”

These are the words of wisdom I learned in my previous trainings yet I fully not comprehend and understand to incorporate in my daily life. Early this week, I posted in one of my groups an invitational message to my current service. The intention is to entice anyone in our group to join in our service. Come lunch I received a message from our head requesting me to delete the said post in order to avoid confusion with the organization’s chain of command. I did as requested but the thought of why those things happened linger in mind and bothered me for the succeeding days. I realized in that situation that I am not very open to criticism because I take them as an attack to me as a person.  The reason why I never let go of my longest pain is because I believed that they did it in purpose as an attack to me. I never confronted them therefore there is no sense of knowing their reason for doing those things. I think it will make me at peace if I see it that they did what they did that time because they too are protecting a family, our organization, its just that we saw each other as the threat. Both of us have no intention of hurting anyone but because I saw it as a direct offense to me, as a betrayal I hold on to that pain for so long. I mentioned this because I saw that this is the reason why I am always defensive. After this incident in my previous organization, I actually do not trust anyone, I put myself in a place of isolation, and very watchful into whom I will show my vulnerability. I hide myself in the mask of happiness, fun and activities. Going back, I think I’ll be at peace by acknowledging that the content of my message is what I need to improve on. It was insensitive of me to be mindful of how other people perceived my message. I have lot of things to grow in communication and I am thankful to the people who contributed to me in coming up to this breakthrough. To work on this, I’ll try to work on improving my communication skills. I know this will help me to reach for my goals and build my leadership.

2014 Update in my little own world :)

I lost again, for last year, I was not able to update after the 1^st few months of the year. Moving on, I hope to do this at least weekly to start again.

Update?! Im still alive, more positive though. I am trying to work on my imagination; visualization, using this as a tool to attract success in my way.

I am currently reading the newest book of Rissa and I find it amazing that she finds realizations even in the seemingly ordinary events in her life. Soon, I’ll make one like that. A few realizations why certain things happened in my life, the lessons it brought me and maybe objectively what I could have done better.

I am working on being a STAR; it’s the coolest recognition at present, STAR and STAR CREATOR. A lot of incentive trips, the best accommodation, royalty treatment and opportunity to help other people.

I am experiencing my best self in terms of my physical features; I lost 11 inches in my waist after my 90 day program. I am looking forward for representing our country in the international testimonial of this program.

I am serving in Feast Pasig Music Ministry, particularly in Chorus. I am glad with ne, singing for the Lord and dressing up for our theme. The playful side of me is always happy during this time. I recently rendered my service in the Singles mission and it was a blast, looking forward for more events.

For my personal life, I am open, currently excited for what God has planned for me. This will be my most exciting year, a lot of things will happen. A lot of challenges I will overcome. I will be wiser, stronger, more loving and more faithful to My God.

SUCCESS OLYMPICS IN THE PHILIPPINES!

Today is the start of Success Olympics here in the Philippines. This is the grandest event in system 7 where all of those who accomplished the milestones in their business will be recognized and celebrated. I will be coming tomorrow for the general session tomorrow, I missed my targets for my business this month but I do acknowledge the efforts that I have given in learning how to be successful in this business. I realized that life is full of learning but it is really in accomplishing the task that you will be recognized. Later I have to prepare everything that I will wear over the weekends. I am very excited to dress up again and be able to contribute for the event. I know that the best contribution that I can give is to become one of the awardees but since I missed it this time, I vow to make it happened for the next SO this December. I know that by God’s grace, He will rekindle the fire in me to perform massive actions and reap great rewards by the year ends. I am allowing myself to obtain success in this business and confidently I can say that I can make this happen, get a pie for the LTO and double my business in the next SO. The plan is to follow the system because we now have the best system, history will unfold.

Zooming up

The road to success is not easy but the destination will surely worth all the rough roads and road blocks that we will pass. In my 1st month I engage in several changes to align myself to the result that i want.

First is to transfer to BD house in San Antonio, in that house we are extending the culture of success during business hours making our success faster and the success culture our way of life. I became consistent with my activities, perfecting my skills to fast track the results that I want.

In my personal assessment I am not aligned  after the first month yet the fast pace of our growth is promising for the results that we want. Continuing our success culture, our 2nd month greatly improve. Activities now are more productive as well as my fast growth.

As I change house so as the spiritual community i am into. This year I committed to Feast Pasig, I appreciate how success culture is extended in this entirely different community. I already bid farewell to my previous community whom I find still needs some time to mature when it comes to financial concerns, spirituality and dreams.

Time flies fast but gladly I am aware that I am coming closer to my dreams and that My actions are align soon my reality will be the desired state of my Goals.

Blue Diamond Year 2013

Today is the start of another year, another year to share my love to the people around me and to those that will come my way. I am very much excited fora new goal this 2013, Blue Diamond Pin Title. Attaining this success will bring out the best in me. The road is not that easy but I know that the person that i will become after this journey will all be more than worth it. To empower me with this great milestone, I am listing down reasons why I can make this  happen:

1. I know a lot of leaders who have done this therefore i can do it as well
2. I am hardworking
3. I work smart
4. I am a good follower
5. I attend in all meetings
6. Everything that I do revolve in this goal
7. I have my great team and it is continuously growing
8. I have great mentors that will guide me in this journey
9. I have great God that give me endless blessing to share to my neighbors
10. I deserve this success
11. Earning more will give me greater capacity to be significant to the people around me
12. My family deserves a better life


Daily I am looking for proof that this possibility can really be achieved and I am confident that this will be my reality before this 2013 ends.

God is just preparing you

Jesus, fill me with hope that the fulfillment of Your promises are on the way.(www.kerygmafamily.com)

I am a hopeful person and since i was little, i believe that God will provide me with what I need and that everything will fall into its proper place in God's perfect time. In my journey to Success in my business this  belief comes in handy. This helped me in managing unexpected outcomes. My trust level in God's plan is ultimately high and i believe that what I am encountering at present are things that I need to go through for my success.

One of my major breakthrough is to finally accept what has happened 8 years ago. This has been my major burden and since then this has been part of my prayers, to understand the purpose of what had happened. Looking back, I am glad that it did happened, I discovered that my love for them is real and that I cannot run away from family even if it hurts. It made me stronger, more compassionate, understanding and less critical. I enjoy every moment I am with them.

Currently I am focus in obtaining Financial freedom, the road is challenging but I am confident that my God will lead me to the right path and will help me reach victory. I am happy at my pace, there is no need to compare because we are all unique. The preparation varies yet the fruit of our labor will be all worth it. 

My organization is continuously growing and month after month strong leaders are being created. The universe is my bank and my life has been blessed with abundance and happiness. 

When God showed me this business I know that this is something that can help me fulfill my dreams. My growth has been amazing and my results is really fantastic, continuously I will grow more until I fully matured and realize God's perfect plan.

GENSHAI

Genshai /gen-SHī/ : Never treat another person in a manner that would make them feel small - Including yourself


I learned this word from a friend, and it reminds me to always believe in myself. I have a very supportive family yet I was still confronted by feeling of unworthiness 8 years ago. I know its weird to come back to this story again but i cant seem to move on. I have burn this in the bonfire several times, cried about this many times thinking that I am fine after each cry. Since then my confidence slide down and even one of the important people in my life left me. But even if this happened, I snapped out of it and live a new life.  I always ask for God's Grace of forgiveness to move on from this incident but I  seem to not find the forgiveness for what I have done. I tried to forgive others but not myself. Its a mean reality, and so with this I am forgiving myself for not seeing that my temper can be used against me. and that this is outside my comfort zone, the more that I have to be-friend my temper. In learning this word I came to realize that I have to move forward and build a new confidence better than what i previously have. With the love of my family and community I know that in no time, Ill have this confidence again, the brilliance of idea and the feeling of  success will be seen again in my aura. With this new gained self respect, I can give the same respect to all the people around me. 

Habits to change

I am currently fascinated with the thought of having a new me but I noticed that I lack the push to make it consistently and create the new habit.

After reading Bo’s blog about his 30 days challenge, I am inspired again to make myself better. I am currently into my 7^th day for my 3333 meal plan and I am hopeful that after these 30 days, a better and healthier body will be evident for everyone to be inspired. Part of my meal is to always have, fruits, vegetables, protein and carbohydrates. Initially you can think this is not a diet because it is complete with the food groups, but do your own due diligence, it is vey important to have them complete, what we need to learn is the portions and the types of food that we eat. To help me stick to this  new habit, I will list down the reasons why I am changing this old habit of eating unhealthy.

1.      I have always been fat and I always dreamt of a fabulous life, pretty clothes, cool shoes and bags. It is always better to dress up as slim as compared to bloated.

2.      I want to live longer, since I still don’t have a family yet, I need to be healthy more to be with them more

3.      I want my family to adapt a healthy lifestyle for them to live longer as well

4.      I have many things to do..I want to live more of life and live by example….

how i came to love brown rice

It was almost a month or more since i tried again eating brown rice. I heard that it is healthier than white rice. and now that I read some info, i am now a believer of whole grains. I found that it have more benefits aside from fiber, the phyto chemicals in the grains which is removed when it is polished to white rice is a big difference. You may check this article to learn more.

In  my own experience, to adapt to this change, we have to be ready. White rice have this distinct characteristic of making you eat more and the moment you tried brown rice you won't feel that anymore. Maybe it is because of the fiber that makes you easily feel full. But to enjoy this, the way to prepare brown rice should be learned. Years ago, we tried eating brown rice but then we revert back because we cannot cook it well. It absorbs more water and it takes more time cooking to have that soft texture of rice. You should also prepare that it taste lesser than white rice. You can be accustomed to it and knowing its benefits, you will really try to live with it. 

And all it takes is a decision, never mind the feelings.

May I always be true to my words, Lord. May my actions reveal that I am Your disciple.

 

I am a kinesthetic person and a big part of my decisions are based on feelings and the reason why I have a hard time in making decisions. But once I made the decision its final. As I remember, in choosing my course in college, it was actually a decision by my mom and me. It was based on my love for mathematics but not really a dream to become an engineer. I did well; finish my college just in time. I joined in one if the organizations in the campus, I was not active at the start but since I joined in already after a few months of resting, I attend in all its activity until I graduate and even until today after 10 years I am still supportive to my 2^nd family. Even in my other organizations, I still keep my commitments and give time especially to the major events. In my current organization, I am experiencing some challenges. As I have said, there is no option of quitting, only moving forward. I know I can be considered rest5ing for a while but soon I’ll be back stronger; just like having 1 step backward and 2 steps forward. I have already decided 2 years ago, I may be feeling uneasy and lost at present but I know that with God’s grace I will soon be enlightened and claim the success in-store for me. I will live up to the culture of Nuskin and be a force for Good. One of the reasons why we want to be wealthy is to help more people, to make our country first world. There is a long way to go so I must set aside my feelings and be responsible for my own success. This way I can offer my help to others!

Cheers!

Painting my Happiness!

Jesus never said it would be easy or that we would always understand everything. I suppose this is why we call it a life of faith.

Grant me, Lord, a singleness of purpose that I may fulfill Your will for my life.

One of my major concerns is that I lack clarity in what I want. I usually conform to what people want and to what is right. I have a vague picture of things that I want. As I remember it, I just want to be happy. And they say that happiness is a choice, the reason why I am jolly, its one way to tell people that I am happy. Though I know that I owe happiness to myself only, I can’t help but mind all the people around me. When they are happy, I am happy. I can say that I live in a life of faith for I believe that God prepared the best plan for my life. And things fall into places in God’s own perfect time. I am not sure if this works in my advantage or disadvantage but I still believe that at the end it will all be worth it. After all, the entire end destination is the life after death. Becoming financially free becomes a part of it by becoming an avenue to help more people and be of service to a larger scale.

With this the picture becomes clearer. My purpose is to give happiness to the people around me. And to enlarge the circle that I affect I have to be capable of giving them big help. That is I must make myself first successful to help others be successful, change their life and give happiness to others as well.

Years before I see success as climbing the corporate ladder, I once dreamt of becoming a CEO of a company but things change when some people inspired me to own the ladder instead of climbing it through employment.  I am still currently working but I hold in my heart that soon I will own that ladder. To learn the ropes of business I entered a business school called CA2020. We have this life entrepreneurship program to earn Time and Money freedom. This is important to my dream because happiness is best with Time to do the things that matters and comes in simple things you do for the people that matters most. 2 years in it I have seen some growth though I am encountering some setbacks and challenges I know that at least I have grown. Compare to 2 years before, I have now something to say about business and investing. Moving on I know that I will come in full circle as a leader and soon have that dream of being a CEO.

Bridging this dream, I need to accomplish our stage I business to have excessive cash, which is needed in putting up traditional business. Now, the highest level in stage I business is becoming a leader but it all start by becoming an executive. I must learn to maintain my own franchise and teach this to at least 15 people. To maintain my franchise, I should have a least 60 people that will monthly subscribe for products worth 3500 php or 30 partners that will consume or retail at least 7000 php worth of products.

At present I have 1, my own personal consumption. Soon it will come into place. I think this is workable.

I thank the Lord for it is done!

Live up the High standards

It is not going to be easy to live up to the high standard Jesus sets for us, but if we lower the standards and settle for second-best, what we are doing is giving in to sin and mediocrity. Let us seek the higher calling and embrace the cost of discipleship as it will bring us to the gift of eternal life.

Yesterday, I met a new friend who inspired me to continue my service in my organization. It is really in my heart to be of service to my dear MITSCA family but the structure is not yet established, however we are in the process of rebuilding it through our Alumni association. Just as my journey in this organization, it was never that easy but it is worth…It’s been 10 years since I started as an applicant. I got hurt, had fun, loved and forgave and still attest to the time that my commitment to this family is growing. In whatever way I can be of help, I will certainly give it. They are even a part of my dreams. I admit that I also have my downfall in terms of my attitude but just as Jesus thought us, we shall strive to meet His high standards. And I believe that serving in this family will lead me to that Holiness.

Same way in business, I am currently living in mediocrity and I want to change it. This can also be a form of service, service to the whole country by giving it hope and chance to be better. I am not used to being mediocre, I know that I live my life the best way I can and I maximize everything. I submit to the Lord to lead me where I should be and how I can be of service to my immediate family, my MITSCA and MITASCA, my business community and to the whole Filipino people.

I think I can start it again with managing my time to make the most out of it without any whining. I’ll start from here and hope to uplift my standard again and live life to the fullest.

Milk Tea Craze

The most popular drink today is milk tea...Gongcha, Serenitea, SIP, Cha Time and many more stalls are popping up to offer the most famous drink at present. But years before, while I am still in college, I love milk tea...freshly brewed black tea with powdered milk and sugar. i love it sweet. This drink was introduced to me by my friend susan. She got it when she worked in saudi...and i was surprise when I was am in Darwin that they really do the milk tea with fresh milk of course. Honestly, it is my 3rd day having milk tea and I know it is sinful...because of high sugar...i love it with full sugar...i am not happy if I make it sugar free....with this...i realized that i should take it in moderation...once a week will do. This has been my sinful week but next week I will try to limit it....

Business wise I will commend those who started this business...it is now on its momentum but if you are trying to jump in the business its already too late...its currently in its peak and sooner or later it will just be a normal drink...so if you thought of any new thing that you want to venture in...try it out fast..who knows...that idea can be BIG....

Action speaks louder

Knowledge is not enough. When we apply what we know, that is called wisdom. 

Lord, let Your Spirit convict me when I agree to what you say but fall short of putting it to practice.

Spiritually, I know a lot. I owe it to my basic education they taught me a lot about my religion and my faith. For long I was stubborn. I find it hard to read the word of God. Maybe because I find it boring, luckily my mom once got a book with daily readings and reflection. For that time, I consistently read it everyday. But after the duration lapse, I find it hard to get a copy of that book. I stopped again. 2 years ago when I was dispatched to Darwin I included in my routine my daily readings through Kerygma family. It’s great but then after I came back to Manila I stopped again. A few weeks ago when I heard mass at Greenbelt chapel, the priest give emphasis on how important it is to read the Gospel daily. With this I was moved to try it out.  Several weeks already that I am reading the Gospel, I appreciated the messages it brings. I can see the resemblance of my experiences and situation to the readings especially in the 1^st reading and because of this I am thankful. I am hoping to really create this habit of daily reading. It gives me the strength to move on and be strong.

Business wise, this same passage is applicable. Every plan must be put into action. Its fun to create action plans but it must be implemented and measure to really know if it is working. This is the challenging part as well, to do the action plan. This is something new and out of our system, the reason why we are facing resistance. It is part as well that in trying new things; we are tested if we are serious with the change that we want. I know a lot of should be but I find it hard to live it daily. I should be listening to audio books at least 1 hour, I should be reading different books for 20 mins and so on. But in spite of this, I move on. I still try to find my formula of daily activities; the activities that I can stick to for years. This is hard for me but I know that with the help of God, this can be possible and achievable. To God be the Glory

-Mafe Pastorpide

www.ca2020.net